Thursday, February 23, 2006

Criticism never works!

"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive" - Dale Carnegie

"Don't complain about the snow on your neighbor's roof, when your own doorstep is unclean" - Confucius

"A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men" - Carlyle

"Criticisms are like homing pigeons, they always return home. " - Dale Carnegie

"Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving." - Dale Carnegie

Have you ever seen somebody criticize themselves when something went wrong? Well the chances are you have not! Its simply because most people don't criticize themselves, not matter how wrong they are. I am sure we have seen people who are ready to pounce like a tiger and criticize anything at the first opportunity. As far as I know, criticism never works - even if the intention is noble. There is no such thing as constructive criticism. Why? In Dale Carnegies words, "humans are not creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. Creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity". When you criticize somebody, they invariably go in the defensive. They want to prove that they are right and justify themselves. Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. Have you noticed people light up when you sincerely compliment them. You can use criticism to turn somebody off and compliments to uplift them. But there is a very thin line between complimenting somebody and trying to flatter them. Well, that's a completely different topic.


so long!...


1 comment:

therearview said...

Its True, Rather than criticizing just acknowledge that it has happened and start moving over. What is good for me is bad for you and vice versa. So There will always be some criticism and some praise. This is World.